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No Competition

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Why Enter a Race?
Why Compete?
A Third Way:

Without participating in a race you cannot win or lose. This meditation offers the suggestion if a free-minded individual refuses to compete on societies precepts: happiness, security and wealth become active aspects of one’s existence  An open-minded individual understands the rules of life, and after careful considerations, weigh’s up the balance of any situation. And even if the scales of truth are weighted against one’s hopes and inspirations: an open-minded person makes the right and sometimes difficult choice based on reality rather than emotional desire.

Open-minded thinking sometimes causes temporary isolation during transitional periods. Friends and family fail to accept open-minded assessments and the move from illusion to reality. The possibility of losing friends causes resistance from the emotional mind: So one should remember initial setbacks include: Closure of friendships, relationships, and moving away from established situations. Readers or listeners are reminded major changes to one’s relationships are difficult for an emotional mind to accept: and this is why an emotional account will resist the idea of becoming none competitive. 

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From the beginnings of the first comprehensions of life: we are encouraged to be competitive. We see parents, compete with family, friends and neighbours, fathers follow favourite teams and talk of promotion and work and money. Parents offer suggestions of superiority with comparisons. Proving their superiority with comparison to others less fortunate. “look at that heap of junk, look at that terrace house, how can they live like that?” These are the phrases of superiority. An unfortunate child has grandparents who reinforce ideas of attainment: talk of the university, good jobs and qualification. The child is being locked into a system.

Furthermore: teachers over-see tests: school classes are competitive with two main factions: either: best and smart and fast OR weak and unintelligent and slow. Inevitably achievers gain attention: failures become punished, ignored or branded as trouble makers. Later in life, there are extremes with the top of the class becoming a successful professional. The bottom of the class becomes a successful criminal. The majority watch and understand nothing other than conformity.

Injustice seeps into the system: Adoration for attainers’ and dislike of the failures: The tragedy is we are rarely guided to reference personality or character. How many times have you listened to a cruel comment: Something like “He’s a hard worker, but he’s just plain stupid”? How do we explain this cruelty? Consider the character Forest Gump to discover the seed of an answer. Do you know why the film is so popular? It is because millions of people can relate to Forest’s character. They know they have more to give; however, their belief is they have no purpose. Consider the message that Forest does not have a purpose: episodes of his life are flowing and without defined purpose. His fortune is dictated by chance meetings. Truth is Forest’s prosperity is down to chance and lack of empathetic connection to reality. He has no fear because his mind only knows how to run! This is his initial life lesson: His mind knows it must keep on running and moving on and is life like a box of chocolates? No more than it is a bowl of cherries. Life is tough, unfair and without compromise.

The free mind asks why people adore the arrogant success story and ignore a kind and caring non-achiever. Who would you prefer as a friend and associate? I know my preference never waivers: A kind, caring, transparent and honest person wins my heart every time. My friends range from compassionate wealth: too will ‘o the wisp spirituals. Only one gauge matters, the question: “Do I enjoy my friend’s company?” Incidentally, I’m thankful for their patience and graciousness, these are two character assets needed to put up with my strange attitudes and thoughts.

I do not believe who we associate with restricts our lives: Many sages suggest we become the same mindset of our associates. Not if we follow the third way: you see the third way guides one not to judge or compete. Therefore if there is no competition to gain or attain friends, it becomes easy to separate one’s self from those who cause hurt, pain or unhappiness.

For most, life’s potentials and promise become set in the mould of conformity toward the end of teenage rebellion. As the renegade disappears in shadows of hopelessness: Social protocols and society’s master plan takes over. Poor relationships, children, marriage, divorce, joy, happiness, failures, houses, apartments, jobs, cars, debts, loans, anguish, sorrow, occasional celebrations are expected and accepted. The cycle begins again when children grow up and follow the plan taught by parents and teachers. Millions are caught in this net of perceived normality.

Every race is won when it is run alone. Having no interest in the successful, the failures or middle-grounders frees the inner being from all levels of competition. The winners, losers and the indifferent minds all have their level. And most of them unknowingly make the choice to be in their place. The free-mind see’s people enter daily races even though they’ll lose or not finish. Races of ambition, wealth, possession, academic attainment are never won outright. Jack will have more money than Jill. Branson will have more money than your neighbour who lives in the mansion. Einstein is has more genius than the university lecturer. There are few outright winners and of what importance is another human’s victory to you? Admiration for another man’s endeavour acknowledges competition and winning. The fact he has the accolade should be the end of any interest. Closed minds follow the idea that winning and attainment demonstrates success. An open mind sees beyond this idea setting its own standards, ethics and ethos.

Before one can follow the third way, there is need to understand the truth of entering the race. Attempting to see the reality means being brave enough to see entering the competition is an illusion of dreams and hope and false promise. Those who enter the race, become fit to become winner. And the fitness is harnessed by those who organise the race. When ten men strive to become top salesman, the company wins from everyone who has entered. Even the salesman who makes the least sales has contributed to the companies profits. The race is designed to benefit the organisation, society or government not those who compete.

We can win every race if we compete with personal standards. Setting personal standards is easy to think about and difficult to establish: Today you choose to save your wages and begin to pay off your bills and tomorrow you see the item of illusion you must have! A simple phrase helps the mind to be free: It is: To be free every debt should be satisfied. Many will find the idea almost impossible to comprehend. Allow me to cast a spell of wellbeing: being without obligation will make you happier than any other state of mind. In other words: To be free every debt should be satisfied

To be within debt is means you have nothing: There is no need to have any more than needed. How much do your need? Use this formula: add up your monthly out goings: rent or mortgage, utility bills, car and travel and food. Add twenty percent to the figure. This is you actual financial need. If you save everything earned above this figure you will be rich. Use the savings to pay off mortgage early. Then you will be very rich.

Setting the mindset sets the desire, set this objective: choose to only enter a race you can win. To be free, think of the freedom of being without debt. Consider the idea for hours; write about the feeling of freedom. All one needs to do is divert excess into the money you owe. Do you say you have no savings? There will be no excess where there is a waste. Fast food, bottled water, excess of pleasures all are lures to debt. Two bottles on Friday, three on Saturday and the takeaway meal total the costs. Understand the waste and you’ll discover the ways to become debt-free.

In time following the third way becomes empowering. The free mind needs no-one, its power and best friend is security. Nothing comes close to the freedom. Money accumulates, and soon the home becomes one’s own. Without debt, there is freedom. 

And while I talk about money, remember two aspects of capital:

You are money. You earn it with your life hours. You convert your work into tokens which are used to buy your home, warmth, water, food, clothes. You are money: And secondly: when you spend cash, thank it for its ability to turn life hours into security. The more you respect your money, the higher your ability to see how to use its power and see it grow. When you appreciate the money, you recognise your life hours. 

Here is a harsh and difficult consideration: People who do not earn their money have no respect for themselves or life. They borrow and enter into debt because they are selfish. They want everything and do not want to exchange their life hours for the thing they wish to own. When you borrow money for pleasures, you are selfish and impatient. And there is no respect for the purchase. When there is no need for excess, borrowing or debt one becomes free because, by default, one accumulates savings and security. Never waste money earned with your life-hours: remember you are money: every penny wasted is a waste of your life hours. Here is an example:

My nine-year-old MacBook, eight-year-old interface and twenty-year-old microphone are used to make this recording. This equipment is my conduit of wealth, the microphone, interface and Mac allow me to sell my thoughts. And life is good because many minds have an interest in my thoughts. I mention this to suggest we do not need the newest or the best to achieve acceptable goals. The thinking mind learns how to use every possession to best advantage. An important consideration is the thinking mind, learns how to see the truth of all situations realistically. 

The Third Way is a paradox: It seems to be to do but it hard to keep on track.  So before considering the possibilities of the third way. A thinking mind should train itself to be intellectually biased. Emotional considerations have already enjoyed free reign and caused havoc on many occasions: A moving account is supported by illusion and desire: A thinking mind understands the wisdom of reality and active communication. The emotional mind resists being set aside and will play all manner of psychological tricks to reign supreme. The thinking mind asks one question “Are these thoughts needs, illusions, possibilities? If the answer is yes: the dream is emotional.

Do not worry: remember worry is manifest from the emotional mind. The intellectual mind looks and listens for clarity, honesty, integrity and ethos. 

The Third Way changes life: and dissolves the past. Learning about the third way takes time: to help you with the idea of Third Way, think of yourself as a gardener of the mind. See your view as a ground which needs clearing. Brambles and weeds of issues, hurt, and poor memories require burning and uprooting. Think in this way: and soon, the garden will be ready to plant seeds of great thoughts and trees of strength. You can grow a garden of will which cannot be affected by the winds of change or storms of despair. In time the garden will become a forest of security and the paths of the third way will lead to the centre of intellect.

The intellectual mind understands certain wisdoms:

It is impossible to repay debts owed to people you have hurt. You cannot make amends to those you have betrayed: face the reality people never forget, and trust is not a fallen wall which can be rebuilt. No way you can change the truth of the darkest moments.

Does the intellectual mind consider the meaning of acceptance? One has to think and understand aspects of why acceptance is key to a golden gate of freedom. For examples: can you accept you are often wrong, accept you will not always be liked, accept failure, loss, and the fact life is not fair? Most important, can you recognise you are responsible for your life.

No one needs a know-all, guru, life-expert. They tell a different tale: one of unconditional love and forgiveness. And yet in our societies: Murderers are electrocuted, social media groups demonstrate hatred, people take revenge. Where is the marker between acceptable or not? Consider the idea of a clean sheet: bankrupt your failures, mistakes and wrong-doings. Say today “that was yesterday. Those lost to my life are gone, will not return and they are better without my presence. Today is new: I’ll work hard to live and be happy and be thankful for those who are part of, and contribute to my life.

All one needs is standard. What is the standard? It a way of living which meets a predetermined agreement with oneself—known as a standard of how to live. What could more natural than a: warm home, happy relationship, content family. And this standard is not the easiest to attain, and yet, it is all one needs. Why would the standard be challenging to achieve or maintain? Because it is simple and does not require competition or attainment. An emotional mind finds this aspect impossible to accept.

When a situation or objective or anything is simple: many cannot believe it to be true. Too good to be real: too simple to be true: so good it is hard to believe: Few accept that something easy to attain has worth. And this is why many people are unhappy: they are seeking pipe dreams, illusions, the need to win the race, instead of meeting an easy to attain the standard.

Once one understands and sets the standard, the battle of life becomes easy. Battle of life? Yes! Think of yourself as the standard-bearer who marches ahead of the soldier’s on a battlefield. But consider the image differently. Know that your standard protects you from the opposition, the enemy whose sole desire is to take from you and help you into a life of hard work for no reward. The net of debt is the enemies most powerful ordinance. The enemy does not desire to take your life: their objective is to enslave you, to their will.

When one lives free and outside the chase: there is no need for excess: nothing more than basic qualifications will earn a living. A driving licence, simple vocational levels of education, and a determination to work and live within one’s means will provide an adequate lifestyle. And all the better if the effort is shared with another. There is no need to become involved with outside influence. By living solo one wins the race. Set a standard, attempt to meet or exceed the standard during every moment of life, and the competition is won.

These ideas are the third way: and the direction of least resistance: the way of non-competition: the power of acceptance—the way of the free mind.

Thank you for listening to my thoughts. I accept the idea raises many questions and will be considered as selfish. I have no interest in critics: they are welcome to their opinion. I do not write to make friends. My words are cathartic exercises and reflect my mindset. Life works for me: there is no debt and money flows into my life. The cash and in my pocket and the card in my wallet are an extension of my ‘being’ they are energy which lightens and lights the path of life.

Once I lived a life of deception and illusion and I was poor. Now my existence is ethical and real and I am wealth. Am I happy? Of course, I’m surrounded with friends and business associates. I respect them and enjoy seeing them prosper and find happiness, love and security. Life is good. My mind is free.

See You One Day.

Rights of Passage

Rights of Passage

Some years ago, I knew a wizard video editor. His mastery of editing could have been the key to open doors of national, even international recognition. So why did a potential sparkling career come to nought?

Patience, overvaluing worth and ability, combined with an arrogant attitude, answer the question. His way was the only way, and a belief he was better than his film school peers did him no favours. And there are other considerations: His ability using editing software was excellent, the finished work repetitive. Reliance on and excessive use of effects gave the productions an amateur look. He knew the software inside-out. He could make an effect, cut or audio improvement on the video timeline in an instant. He’d learned how to use the software but failed to produce unique productions.

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I’ll christen the editor Ed. Ed could not appreciate the work of his peers. Never would he ask how or why a section of a film’s production was made in a certain way. Always his opinion was: ‘I could make that better’, which in the right situation is a good attitude and one to be encouraged. Was Ed’s inability to attain recognition or employment in the film industry because of his mediocre productions? The answer is ‘No’. His work would have improved with experience, and he would have gained considerable recognition.

Liken him to an artist with a studio full of materials and enthusiasm. And for all the tools and technical know-how. When the artist’s work is reviewed, the opinion is: ‘What is the artist attempting to reveal This piece does nothing for me’. Equipment and knowledge cannot compensate for creative ability, and competence is the result of verbal interaction, trial and many errors. There is no doubting artistic growth needs bravery and the taking of chances. Wrong directions, blind alleys, creative roadblocks and happy accidents are essential learnings in the artist’s journey.

Perhaps the worse aspect of his’ way to the stars’ was the deception of Ed’s media presence. It portrayed an image of experience and expertise: of course, time-served professionals saw through the smoke. A fall was inevitable: with little interest in his output, the wind of truth blew his smoke-screen away. Ed thought he could helicopter ride to the summit, not have to climb the mountain. Today he stacks supermarket shelves.

At the outset of his career, a humble attitude and accepting menial positions would have given Ed a higher chance of success. He would have climbed the film reel to become recognised as a brilliant editor: inevitably receiving rightful and deserved acclaim. By taking the time to establish his presence, and demonstrating a willingness to learn and share and care: the success he craved could have been accomplished.

Creative careers benefit from the helping hands of experience. As a ‘runner’ in a media production office, Ed would have learned the more appealing aesthetic aspects of video production. As an enthusiastic member of a team, he’d have become known, liked and respected. Ed was an amateur, and although good with software, he possessed no experience of actual media production. Believing his work could better experts with tens of years in the film and television production industry evidenced immaturity and guaranteed failure. Even now working the mundane to Friday job he still thinks himself a film director! Today his video output is ‘project zero’, and no the lower rungs of the film industry career ladder are now too high to grasp. There are plenty of students graduating from film school ready to do anything to work in the industry. He may have fared better if he’d understood an apprenticeship is essential to success. Working and interacting with experienced people is the way many careers are forged.

Nothing happens without effort: Creativity and failure are part of ‘The Rights of Passage’:

Great artists choose to make every new piece a creative exercise: never believing they know all, and there is nothing more to learn. Some use a pencil and paper to draw a portrait and write an essay about a subject. Others need a studio full of paints and brushes and prepared canvases. The tools do not matter; for example, Daniel Johnson used colouring pens, an old piano and a cassette tape recorder to become a millionaire. 

My journey has taken me from expensive production tools to three main items. My work is produced with an iPhone, iRig microphone and an eight-year-old MacBook. I have written over five and a half million words in the last two years earning a good living from words and pictures. More important than the material aspect, is the immense pride in seeing our events business thrive, through artistic creativity — link to LizianEvents.

I possess no formal learning of writing, image taking and video recording. My ‘Right of Passage’ is attending book and trade show lectures to learn about creativity. My library of books, DVD’s, old school VHS or anything creativity related is growing. More important is talking to as many creative people as possible. And my learning is with the attitude of grace and respect for those who share their knowledge.

On the 28th of October, my book ‘Write: Publish and Promote a Book’ is published. It is twenty-thousand words focussed on the promise of the title. And my thoughts are it is an excellent book, the best book I have written. It could not be completed without the help of friends who read through the chapters and provided feedback. The book’s twenty- thousand words stand on the five million written over the last three years. My work improves because of my creative friends. Without their input, comments and critic, I would still be lost and without purpose to my life.

Thanks to all who help me with my future…

Five million words? Yes: Below are my Grammarly statistics:


Queen Victoria’s mourning of Prince Albert was life long.. Jet beads and black clothing became a trend followed by millions. During the same era, heavy loss of young life in Boer and First War made Britain a nation of habitual mourning. It seems a trait of the British is to embellish the loss of family, friends, unknown celebrities. And extend the mourning for years, and sometimes decades. Was Queen Victoria the seed of a nations love of mourning?

No matter what happens during life or how tied to the past: once one makes defined changes we move into the future. Memories are held within objects and even if the memories are good, remembering can cause pain.

Jon’s New Image

Recollection can play cruel tricks: A photograph rekindles a happy time enjoyed with a friend, the memory is dulled by the shadow of another less kind recollection. We return to a place of childhood memories a feeling of happiness is changed when a moment later we are within the sadness of the loss of people within the mind-scape.

I’m fortunate because my inner-being accepts the final sleep as natural. For many, there is no release from the grips of grief. Some people have extended mourning of parents. Understandable if they enjoyed childhood and upbringing. Overcoming the loss of wonderful parents is for many almost impossible. Although one must ask if excellent parenting includes teaching children independence from the fear of death, or the loss of a loved one.

Early in 2018, Jon’s father died and soon after recorded his thoughts about the loss. The words resonated with many people. He told me there would be a time for mourning, reflection and then future. He is now beginning the final stage: making the family home his own. Changing his looks and clearing out the old to make way for the future.

Listen to Jon’s Message

Jon says: “We must move on: life is for living: those who loved us would never wish for life to be suffocated by the final act of life.” Powerful words. Jon demonstrates we should mourn and then live. And there is a time to make a definitive turning point and mark the moment with change.

I wish my friend well: He is a most unusual and independent man: watch this space:

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The Philosophy of The Beach

Free-flowing thoughts:

On the beach, I sense the futility of life. Nothing helps me understand my inner-being better than being here. It is where the safety of the land meets the hidden depths of the sea. Oceans of exploration, taking risks and finding new beginnings. My conscious mind is seemingly sane – the unconscious mind troubled.

Blue sky or massive storm represent calm or anger. The wind and its hidden abrasive sand are harsh sentiments within conversations. The sun blinds or enlightens. A sea of hidden dangers: Sky, water, sand, wind and sun symbolise humanity’s attitudes and personalities. Why are so many addicted to water? Water and emotions: tears of happiness or joy. Does a diver’s inner-being return to the safety of the womb? Does a sailors yacht represent freedom? What words are hidden in the rumbling waves? ‘We will bring you home and take you away’.

I think how little we know of life’s mysteries. Nothing is needed to be happy. As we age, we know less than children, the magic of imagination is easily lost.

My mind wanders: I make a recording it also free flows: the choice is to limit the editing:

A title is evasive – I’ll settle on “Beach Philosophy”

Alice and Bella played all day:

I watch Bella and Alice play: they do not need money or property. Their happiness is within imagination and stories about sea serpents and mermaids.


The construction of sandcastles and mermaid palaces is evidence of the girl’s creative minds. Kids should be guided to know that peace, happiness and working together opens the gates to a fulfilling life. And of course, I realise, they already know this truth, it is the illusion of adulthood, which destroys reality.

Tools of The Happiness Trade

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I’m sure we all encounter situations where our intention is misunderstood. We see something one way, and a friend or someone you know sees a different side.

As I become older, my tolerance diminishes. No longer will I argue the point and unless there is a good reason for me to look at the other viewpoint: my perspective is: “Don’t like it? Let’s call it a day”.

It is interesting to find people of a similar age seem to ask the same attitude. I’m not going to see another sixty years and believe me, and I don’t like this idea one jot. In certainty, reflecting on my life experience, the conclusion is I wasted the first thirty years. This fact is a sobering reflection many of my friends also entertain in the early hours of the morning.

For those of you who are in the early to mid-thirties, the suggestion is in fifteen years you’ll be fifty and ten years later knocking on the door of retirement. Make sure you understand every day you waste will be one of regret in days to come.

The recording is twenty minutes long and unedited! I like the idea of ‘Raw Thought’s’ indeed I’ve almost changed the name of this weblog to that name. We live in a beautiful world and never has there been more opportunity to express intimate feelings.

One of my favourite places is the beach, Anderby Creek on the east coast. It is a vast expanse of sand and sea and wind. During the recording, you’ll hear the wind and drops of rain tapping on my umbrella. Enderby is a special place: Liz says the recording seems to capture the atmosphere.

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Weekend With Alice and Tristan

Kids are special and exhausting. Liz and I were tasked with looking after Alice and Tristan for the day. It was not long before the recorder was put to use:

Alice Listening to Her Recording

The first recording is with Alice she talks about losing her milk teeth. The microphone noise is Tristan getting in on the interview.

The second recording is Alice and Tristan playing the various musical instruments acquired over the last few years. My feeling is there is a way to go before they hit the big time. However, we all have to start somewhere and the earlier the better.

Alice and Tristan Play Music

The day flew by and although great fun: The two kids are exhausting to look after. No wonder Becky (their mum) is so healthy!

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Jon Talks – Haunted Borley Rectory

Harry Price

Lunch time chat with Jon and the subject turns to ghosts:

Jon says:

“Ian do you know anything about Harry Price and Borley Rectory?”

We grab the microphone and make the recording:



Borley Rectory

Jon and Ian Square Mile Island

Eye to Eye

Eye to Eye

People often wonder how to conceive the plot for a book:

My idea is to use free-flow writing. Set a random thought in one’s mind: Set a time or word limit and fire the starting gun.

If you have a microphone and recorder the seed of an idea can be germinated in a random and free-flowing conversation. The recording can be used as the basis for a short story or even a novel.

Do you doubt the idea?

Have a listen to Jon and my self talking about a plot: I’d bet most good writers could make a super story out of the suggestions:

Which Keys To Tap?

Which Keys To Tap?

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Jon Talks Past Life Regression!

Ian and Jon Podcast – 240119

Jon Sharpe

During lunchtime, our conversation turned to the subject of Past Life Regression. Readers may know Jon loves all manner of hocus-pocus and alternative thinking. It is inevitable this aspect of spiritual ideas would be investigated.

Jon is a rarity: He is a respected historian and has worked in the city museum service. His formal knowledge of English history is without question. It seems strange to many people that his interest is so wide-ranging and obscure.

Well, it seems strange until you meet him: Enough written! Have a listen to this exciting interview.

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The Kindest Words – Jon Sharpe

Today’s article is profoundly personal and of significance to anyone who has entered into the shadows of mental illness. I often talk to Jon about the articles published on  LizianEvents News. He is particularly interested in the articles published next week about the mental health aspect of our health.

Jon Sharpe

Jon asked if he could take a recorder and microphone to record a personal view of mental illness. Who could refuse Jon? After he made the recording, he said ‘Do not edit it too much Ian’. It is my hope people will benefit from my words. He also asked if I would listen to the recording for the first time when I was alone. No doubt I entered a place of great privilege. 

If you listen to the whole of Jon’s recording, you will enter this place of potential healing yourself.

Jon Sharpe’s “Kindest of Words”

There is some minor editing because of the long spaces between his free-flowing thoughts, nothing is removed Jon talks for twenty minutes, and what a story he describes.

It is essential to recognise the bravery required to talk with such intimacy on a subject feared by many people. Jon’s ‘Words of Kindness’ is one of the most significant articles LEN has published to date. We all benefit from these ‘Words of Kindness’.

Many Faces of An Incredible Man

If you have any comments: or wish to contribute to the wellness of others by writing a similar article, please send in your submission.

All that remains is to thank Mr Jon Sharpe for this superb and intimate recollection of a painful episode most people could only imagine.

Thank You – Mr Jonathan Sharpe

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